Dating Files: A 40-year-old divorcee enjoying ‘really good dates with my current situationship’

‘Mostly I’m finding: Men wanting me to be their mum.’

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Age: 40

Gender: Woman

Sexuality: Heterosexual

Religion: None

Occupation: Public servant

My living location is: Suburban

The apps I’m on: None anymore

I’m looking for: An easy-on-the-yes, warm, funny, confident man.

Mostly I’m finding: Men unwilling to commit, men wanting me to be their mum, men who want to sleep with me and are mighty offended when I don’t.

My last serious relationship was: I was married once, am divorced, had a nearly three-year relationship post that with a man who cheated on me.

The worst date I ever had: A man I met organically through work, who told me he wanted to ‘fuck me’ and knew i felt the same, in a full restaurant, on our first date and proceeded to put his hand up my dress. Needless to say, I swatted his hand away (saying that kindly, I did much worse), asked for our bill, and ran out. He texted me post that and said he thought it went rather well. Join the dots.

The best date I ever had: I have really good dates with my current situationship.

The most regrettable thing I ever did on a date: I haven’t. I haven’t been out on that many.

The best thing a date ever did for me: Got me flowers and didn’t expect to ‘stay over’.

The biggest red flag I’ve seen on a date: Read the answer for the worst date. It was bad while i was in it. Like excruciatingly so.

On a date I usually wear: whatever I am in the mood for- dress, jeans, heels whatever really.

I have sex when: I wait, it needs to feel right and I don’t mind the wait, even if the man might.

I wish dating was: Easier, I have kids, and it ain’t easy, but also less complicated.

This is what I think about who pays on dates: We go halves but if the guy insists, I don’t take umbrage.

Three words that describe my dream date: Easy, confident, funny.

My dating advice is: Step away from the apps. Slowly.

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